The Pain Eases But Never Goes Away
Hello, Ive been looking on here and have sat in floods of tears. We lost our youngest daughter Lisa 12 1/2 years ago,aged 16, the pain never really goes away, every thing you do doesn't seem right, you feel guilty at laughing, smiling. Our other daughter has had 3 boys and i love them to bits. But having them here does not take that retched pain away. I think I got upset on Jacks site because my eldest grandson looks just like your son. Take each day as it comes, and we HAVE TO BELIEVE THAT ONE DAY WE WILL BE WITH OUR PRECIOUS CHILDREN ONCE AGAIN. LOVE SUSAN MOON
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I Like this its been a comfort to me
As The Sun Came Up This Morning
I Watched You There Below
Your Hearts Seemed Oh So Heavy
But There’s Something You Should Know
I’m Not Gone Don’t Worry
I’m Just A Step Ahead
And I’m With You Every Single Day
As You Rise Up From Your Bed
I Am The Sun That Warms You
I Am The Moon’s Soft Glow
I Am The Stars That Twinkle
And Light Your Path Below
So When At Times You Miss Me
Just Look For Me I’m There
For You Cannot Hide My Spirit
It Is With You Everywhere.
Sending a BIG hug
i am so sorry for your loss i have a son the same age and cant even think how i would feel if i lost him .my friend lost her son 2 years ago its was and still is at times so hard for her she says its family and friends that kept here going when she felt she could not go on all the best
it takes time they say !
Hi i lost my 12 year old son ,4 years ago now,he left for school one morning and never came home.life without him will naver be the same , i still wonder why him but get no answers , my only hope and prayer is that one day i will see him again.i have good days and bad and some days are just unbearable when the pain is so bad.just know you are not alone ,and talk ,there are people out there to listen.xxxx god bless and stay strong xxxxxxxxxxx
One day at a time
Hi, I lost my little girl, Jenny, aged 13, fifteen months ago, and it is still as raw as it was then. I don't think I will ever get over it fully. It does get a little easier I suppose, but then you start to feel guilty if you laugh or if you don't think of your child for a short time. We are all just passing through this world, and will all be together again one day. That's what keeps me going. Try to just take one day at a time. Don't be hard on yourself. Do whatever you need to do to get through each day. I am thinking of you. There are many of us who know exactly how you feel. With muc love Angie
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from a bereaved mum
I lost my son last year so understand your heartbreak.
You will never lose him because in your heart he will always live. Your memories of happy times will help. Talk about him. You will have your times of tears and laughter, let it happen and dont let anyone stop you remembering. keep him in your heart and talk to him, he will hear you. You may not be able to touch him or talk to him face to face but your love for him will never fade. He knows your love will never fade.
so very sorry
we lost our son aged 19 nearly 2 years ago & our lives have changed forever, some days we're ok & other days are just so awful, you find a different kind of normal. try & do things differently, my hubby works shifts and i had never been in the house alone at night before our barry went & its something i'll never get used to, my hubby still got that one to come. the pains still there but it gets a little bit softer as time goes by, i know that our b has gone on in front of us & is waiting for us to catch him up. i feel him around me most of the time & especially when i get upset. just keep talking to each other about you' little boy & be there for each other because you'll have bad times at different times. we' sending you a hug each from one mum & dad to another xx
Jack will always be by your side
I am so sorry for your loss. I can`t pretend to even imagine the pain you are feeling. I just wanted you to know I honestly believe that Jack will always be near you. When we lose someone we love, we may not be able to reach out and hold them but they will be there. Find comfort in your memories no matter how short the time you shared.
You may feel my story is irrelevant to your situation but please read on.
My mum and dad split up when I was 8 and my dad went back home to America. Unknown to my brothers and I contact was stopped by my mum`s 2nd husband. Also unknown to us, my dad was told that we were moving away and he wasn`t given any forwarding address. We, his children were led to believe that my dad just didn`t care. I wasn`t convinced and I was right.
Years later as an adult, my brother hired a private detective and we sadly found out that my dad had passed away nearly 11 years ago. I was devastated..... my years of searching for him had been in vain and he would never hug me again.
I cried and cried and even now still wake up every now and again with my face wet with tears. Anyway, to get to my point........ I tried to be positive and decided that my dad is closer to me now at 43 than he ever was after he left for America when I was 8 years old. I have spent many hours late at night searching the internet for his grave with no luck then one night about two months ago it came up on my screen within minutes and with very little effort. I was so desperarate to find him and put flowers on his grave. I know he sent it to me. Since then I have had other signs that he is close by and watching over me. I always wanted to find him but now my dream is a different one ...... I am now saving up to take my 2 children, his grandchildren, over to Wisconsin to put flowers on his grave and one day I`ll get there.
Time won`t change how you feel about losing Jack but you will learn to deal with it in your own way. He will enter your thoughts every day but your tears will only come at times when you feel low. The good days will eventually out weigh the bad days and I know one day you`ll see him again.
Take care
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My heart goes out to you
I am so sorry to read of your loss, i would like to be able to say to you that things do get better but i dont think they do. I lost my son 8 years ago and to me the pain still remains the same as the day i lost him, what i can say though is you learn to cope better with the situation and control yourself better in front of people, when i used to listen to the radio and look at photo's of my son ben my heart used to break all over again but at least now i can smile when i hear songs he loved, i still cannot buy favourite foods that he liked but i am getting there. I hope for you things will ease a bit and you to can learn to smile again, until then take one step at a time, one day at a time and do it at your own pace, dont let anyone rush you or tell you that you should be over this by now, my thoughts and love sent to you all
love Lisa
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