Can Anyone Offer Any Hope For The Future FOR NEWLY BEREAVED PARENTS Xxxx

I'm so sorry for the loss of your little boy. I lost my 15yr old niece Naomi in April and it still seems like yesterday. She has a site on here and it's a comfort to know that i can come on anytime and see her pictures and all the moving messages that people leave. I reckon Naomi will have found your little one and be looking after him for you so trust me when i tell you he's safe. Take comfort in each other, your family and your friends and cherish the memories you have of your little one together. Hope this helps. Take care xxxx

Auntie Amie (none) July 17, 2007

I am so sorry for your loss.
I recently lost my beautiful daughter lauren in a hit and run just a few weeks ago.
Don't be afraid to cry, after a while the tears will become less. Talk about your child whenever you feel like it, it will help you cope with the grief.
I am so sorry for your loss
If you ever need to talk i am always here
xx

Sandra July 17, 2007

So very sorry for your loss

I am so sorry for the loss of your son. My son was still born in February, and I can honestly say I feel just as sad today, just not as in shock. The pain will become less raw with time, but the only answer is time I am afraid. Talk as much as you can about your son, and take care of yourself, as he is safe from any harm now. God bless you your son. Clare x x x

Clare - Lukes Mummy (none) July 17, 2007

Thoughts are with you

Although i have not lost a child of my own i lost my 8 yr old Niece in a car accident 18 months ago..to a certain degree i know how your feeling.. i am extremly close to my sister and see her every day, have been there for her and have heard and tried to help her through this sad heart breaking time as well as dealing with the pain my self. I would like to offer my sincere condolences to you and all your family..i am no expert i know, but i would just say ,cry when you need to ,talk about your loss when you need to.. You will find strength from within to cope hour by hour day by day even if right now you do not feel this..Remenber the time together with your child with a smile.. I know my sister feels a lot of guilt more so on the days she copes better although there is no need and am sure at some point you may feel this also. My heart goes out to you and your family and my thoughts are with you,, ..Chelsea has a page here on this site which has been a great comfort to many...,, May our angels find each other and look down on those who love and miss them.. Sue xxx

Amanda Meierhofer (none) July 17, 2007

Know how you feel

So sorry for your loss and you are in my prayers and thoughts.
I lost my darling grand-daughter on Feb 13th 2006 to Cot death (S.I.D ), she was just 8 weeks old and I thought my world had stopped.I will not pretend it has got easier as time has gone by but I now fund raise for F.S.I.D in the hope that one day they will find a cure/cause for this awful thing. I have found it has helped in a small way as if I can help prevent another family from going through what we have then it will be all worth-while.
The death of a child no matter how old or even not born hurts and I also lost triplets many years ago but have never forgotten them.
I have a site on here for my grand-daughter Alisha Marie and also my Angel triplets, do not be afraid to cry, scream, be angry, just do not bottle up your feelings.I hope this site helps you as there are some wonderful people here, take each day at a time.God bless and your son will always be with you, no one can take away your memories. (((( Hugs )))) xx

Alishas Nana, Mum To Angel Triplets (Nana to an Angel who flew to Heaven on Feb 13th 2006 aged 8 weeks) July 17, 2007

I have never lost a child and I cannot begin to imagine how you must be feeling. I have lost family members including my sister and cousin and I have made them sites on gone too soon, it is a very special place you can write down the things that you want to say to your Son and other people light candles and leave messages for him. It is a comfort because you know other people are thinking about you and going through the same feelings and emotions that you are. You can put pictures of your Son on the site and a special song that he may have liked and you can visit as many times as you like and leave as many messages as you like. This site has brought great comfort to me and to thousands of other people. If you dont feel ready to make his site yet just keep coming back visiting and you will still get comfort from other peoples sites, there are some beautiful poems and words and everytime I am on here I get tears in my eyes but that is good because it is good to cry even when you feel all cried out. Please stay strong and know that your Son is watching over you, he will come and lie at your side when you are sleeping, stroke your head and sing sweet angel songs to you. Please let us know your Sons name and then we can look out for his site if you feel up to it.
My thoughts are with you.
Denisexxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Denise Taylor (passerby) July 17, 2007

i will tell you what works for me

I am so sorry for your loss.My heart goes out to you.
I lost my precious son 16 months ago. I have had to deal with a lot of loss in my family and each one was so different.
Try to take each day as you find it. Never be affraid to express how you truely feel and talk about this. Some days are really bad for me and i have to get off my chest what is really bothering me, even if its mumbo jumbo. Then i find a focus and focus on that. Life will never be 'normal' again and we had to find a 'new normal' that suited all my family.
There is a future out there but it will be different to the one you had and thats where you need to make the changes. You will never forget your son but you will keep his memory alive. We do stuff on birthdays that Leon loved to do and imagine him being there with us and his beautiful smiling face. I cry my tears before i go and tell him this on is for you son. It was hard this year cause fathers day was on his birthday, so it was difficult for all of us. I made his dad a card from him as i know that would be better than buying one. It was almost perfect. It couldnot be perfect as Leon wasn't here. Instead of mulling over the day, we said it was mean't to be a double celebration.
What i am trying to say is try and find some good out of what you have so that you can always remember the great times and that will hopefully help you through. It doesn't work for everyone but its worth a go.
I also have a private book which is hidden. I write in it. The key is no matter how you feel you put it in the book. Angry sad or happy. Dont read back what you have wrote. Some of it will probably not make any senes but thats why you do it. Some things you have to hold back on but in the book you can write it and no-one, not even you wil read it till the time is right. There was just some things i was scarred to say to my family about how i truely felt and my book became my best friend. It cant answer back if you know what i mean. Try it and see what you think. you dont have to write in it every day but it is my link to my son. I write as if i am talking to him. I write it if i am angry at the world. And i find it helps.
If on some days you dont want to talk about him then that is ok too.
I hope i have given you some ideas to help ease you pain. It does get a little easier as time goes by but there is always that 'But'. I am here if you want to talk more.
My thoughts and love go out to you and your family at this time. Take care. xxxxxxxxxxxx

Debi Gayle July 17, 2007

this site really helps me!

hello im a mammy of a now 7month old princess named abigail she went to heaven at 5 months, mylittle lady had quite a few problems but that doesnt make it more easier to cope. i am only 19, 18 when i had my little Abigail but i find comfort in hoing to see her everyday at her garden and reading the lovely mesages that people end her on here. i cry at some and some make me smile but it really helps me. we all know life wont ever be the same again but does that mean we have to be sad all the time yes our hearts will ache constantly and our world reminds us of them but would your little boy want you to be sad? he'llbe watching over you. i hope i have helped. keep your chin up xx

Lucy Anderson July 17, 2007

my heart goes out to you

ITS FOUR YEARS SINCE MY THREE GRANDAUGHTERS PASSED AND I STILL FIND IT SO DIFFICULT.TRY NOT TO THINK TO FAR AHEAD JUST TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME.MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Lorraine Tyrrell (nanny to kelsey chloe and courtneyspendiff) July 16, 2007

our love ones

this site has helped me a great deal there are lots of caring people who will gladly share your sadness try to hang in there its 4 years in october for my son and i take one day at a time god bless xxxx

Dorothy Hardy (some one who cares) July 16, 2007