Can Anyone Offer Any Hope For The Future FOR NEWLY BEREAVED PARENTS Xxxx

Giving you hope

It has been almost 5 years since we lost our precious daughter Shauna. I never thought I would lead a normal life again, life is not the same but I have found my 'new' normal. I can function on a daily basis and am happy again. I always think of Shauna and certain times of the year are harder than others. You do learn to live with your grief but it never goes away. Wishign you gentle days ahead. Love Kelly x

Kelly (another bereaved mummy) July 17, 2007

'your not alone '

'You will be experiancing grief in a way that makes you feel angry, frustrated and lost, you will feel like your heart has been replaced with a burning pain that gets worse as time goes on, like lost children yourselves you will be feeling that you have nowere to run and no one to run to. You have each other, grieve together, laugh together and you will carry eachother through this tragic time in your lives. You may be feeling that there is nothing to go on for, there is and Jack will help you to do so. He will work from within you both and will surround you with love for the rest of your days untill it is your time to be together again. Be strong for each other and share your grief with eachother, let the tears flow when they want to flow and let the memories shine through brining you happy thoughts as well as the thoughts of sadness.Always remember an angel stands by your bedside now and will live on in the hearts of those who love him. Time isnt a healer, it doesnt get better as time goes by, but it allows you to be able to cope, to carry on and to come to terms with. When you loose a child it takes a great deal of 'understanding' as to why? This is how I see it, Everyone is put on earth for to do a certain 'task', some of us do their task quicker than others allthough no one knows what their task is. God takes only the good young and children are innocent of all bad deeds.Your child as was mine is 'special' and God knew that his task was done and so it was his time to join spirit to carry on another role in another time and another task. That task i believe is to 'guide' you both through life without his physical being but to let you know his spirit is beside you. He wipes away the tears and still kisses your cheeks goodnight, he will always be safe from any harm now and will comfort you when you need it most.
Please dont be afraid to 'talk out loud' to Jack, or to smell him on his clothing, he is with you everywere around you and he will never leave you...With best wishes to you both and loving thoughts to Jack from another mother who knows how you feel. xx

Theresa Cave (PASSERBY) July 17, 2007

So sorry for the loss of your son, I lost my little girl Daisy nearly 9 months ago she was only 7 months old, our 4th child. When your child dies you feel like you are the only person that it has happend to,you feel so empty and alone. lots of people say it will get easier just give it time, it doesn't you just have to learn to live with it and except it as part of your live. My children are getting me through this, if it wer'nt for them I don't think I would be here. this web site is wonderful it realy helps a lot of parents just reading the lovely messages and been able to share your feelings with other parents, even been able to just to write down what you want to say when you feel like you dont want to say things to people who you might be affraid of upsetting. There are lovely people on this site, Why dont you try writing about your son on here it is emotional but it does help. If you want to talk you can always do so through Daisys site. love to you both. you don't need to deal with this alone xxx

Maxine Whittall July 17, 2007

sorry for your loss

my heart goes out to you for the loss of your son, i lost my little girl aged 6mths old,she was my little princess she was not ill i just woke up one morning and found her in her cot not breathing, it was the worst day of my life, i think of heidi the minute i wake in the mornings and the last thing before i go to bed she is always on my mind and in my heart, heidi died february 1985 i was told as time goes by it will get easier, but i have found it will never ever get easy the worse thing in life is to lose one of your own children, if anybody would like to have a chat with me heidi has a site, to all the parents who reads this my thoughts are with you, all our darling little ones are now little angels sleep tight little ones heidis mummy xxxxx

Tania Coakley (passer by) July 17, 2007

so sorry

our connor was born sleeping in dec 06 at 33wks after 5 girls ive had a lot of support of this site cos were all going threw the same things ive made sum good friends most go on line if u would like 2 chat my msn is delena_blundell@hotmail.co.uk plse feel free 2 contact me any time im on every nite god bless u all love delena.xx

Connor McGinnis Mummy (grieving mummy) July 17, 2007

so sorry x

this site has helped me a great deal i go on it every morning and night my beautiful son chad PASSED 1 year and 4 months I STILL FIND IT SO DIFFICULT.TRY NOT TO THINK TO FAR AHEAD JUST TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME.MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Michelle Chad Irving Mum (gonetoosoon) July 17, 2007

ALTHOUGH I HAVENT LOST A CHILD....APART FROM A MISCARRIDGE WHICH I KNOW IS BAD....BUT IT WAS A LONG LONG TIME AGO.. SO I KINDA COME TOO TERMS WITH THAT..A LONG TIME AGO..I COME ON HERE TOO VISIT MY PARENTS SITE..
I FIND THIS SITE COMFORTING..AS I KNOW THERE IS OTHER PEOPLE OUT THERE..WHO ARE GOING THROUGH THE SAME THINGS..EITHER LOSING A CHILD,A PARENT,BROTHER,SISTER OR FAMILY MEMBER...
I OFTEN LIGHT CANDLES FOR BABIES ETC..I THINK IF I LIGHT A CANDLE FOR EVERYONE..I WOULD NEVER BE OFF HERE..
BUT..I SUPPOSE A LOT OF YOU CAN REALATE TOO THAT..
THIS SITES BROUGHT A MANY TEAR TOO MY EYE..ESPECIALLY READING ABOUT BABIES AND CHILDREN..BECAUSE OUR CHILDREN ARE NOT SUPPOSED TOO GO BEFORE US....
I SEND MY LOVE TOO EACH AND EVERY PERSON THAT COMES ON HERE..

LOVE TOO YOU ALL XXXXXXXXXX

L July 17, 2007

I want to offer my sincere condolences to you and your family, i havent lost a child but my mum and my mother - in - law both have, my older brother died at six days old, 46yrs ago and all the advice my mum got was to go home and try again there was no offer of help in anyway and my dad didnt no what to do or say, she didnt talk to anybody and now she is has problems caused by severe depression that the doctors say they dont know what has caused it, i can only think it stems back 46 yrs ago, on the other hand my brother - in -law died 7 yrs ago with a brain tumour from him first being ill to him dying it was only 10 weeks and a great shock, although my mother - in - law will always feel that a piece of her is missing she talks alot about him . I think talking is the key my dad died 6 yrs ago and i still talk about him every day although he is gone i include him in most things like dad would have loved this etc, your little boy is still a big part of your life and always will be even tho he's not here, i hope you can take some comfort in the knowledge that he is watching over you. ~Please dont bottle your emotions up it doesnt help there are always people to talk to so use them. I hope this helps xxx

Angela Owen (non) July 17, 2007

i am so sorry for your loss. at the moment you go from min to min thinking of your lost one. after a while you get to perhaps a hour ,but you never go one day without missing them . i lost a baby ay birth and still cry for him. later i lost my 18 year old son,and that pain is still there after 11 years.when you lose a child all your future hopes go as well, like i will never met daniel or dominics wifes or grandchildren. i have a a lovely granddaughter who is so like daniel, it is a comfort but also a bit sad.
after daniel died i found great help from compassionate friends, this is set up to help in many ways parents who have lost children any way or age. they came out to me when i needed most help, and even now find help form their magazine etc.
please just be kind to your self, nothing will ever take away your memories and your loved one is only a whisper away, talk to them like they are still here, and every night make them your last thought and they will come to you in your dreams

Sue Hammond July 17, 2007

I am so sorry for the loss of your darling child. My partner and I lost our son Jake who was still born. I'm not going to say the pain of loosing a child gets easier in time because it doesn't but you will find ways of dealing with the pain in your heart. All i will say to you and your partner is if you find comfort in talking about your child dont be afraid to talk, dont be worried about upsetting others. Dont be afraid to cry its better to let your tears flow than to keep them bottled up, and finally dont feel guilty for laughing just remember your loved one will be happier to see you smile than seeing you cry. I hope you and your partner find peace and happiness. should you ever want to talk please feel free to get in touch. Lorraine.

Lorraine Oakley July 17, 2007